FREN-E-MY   pronounced  { FREN_UH_MEE}

Apocryphra  Sirach 6 vs 1…..instead of a friend become not an enemy; for [thereby] thou shalt inherit an ill name, shame and reproach; even so shall a sinner that hath a double tongue.

Frenemy ( noun )…..definitions

Dictionary.com

A person or group that is friendly towards another because the relationship brings benefits, but harbors feelings of resentment or rivalry

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Free Online dictionary

A person who is friendly or collegial with someone but is actually antagonistic or competitive

Wikipedia

Can refer to either an enemy disguised as a friend or someone whos’ both friend and rival

About.com

Combination of the words “ friend “ and “ enemy “, describes two people usually women, who are best friends most of the time but seem to dislike each other immensely the other part of the time. Often the frenemy is one of the so-called friends, leaving the other one confused as to the genuineness of the friendship

A frenemy is someone who will pretend to be close to you, but at the same time belittle you or say snarky things to make you feel bad

Urban dictionary.com

The type of ‘friend’ whose words or actions bring you down ( whether you realize it or not ) the type of friend you ought to cut off but don’t cuz….they’re nice, you’ve had good times with them. You know, they’re good people that you can count on…..to bring you down in the near future. The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand ways and keep around because it’s in the past, and so one minute ago. That person will continue to bring you down to make themselves feel and look good until you demand better for yourself

This type of person is “dangerous”……I was called a slivering snake,( the site has synonyms for frenemy like “snake in the grass “ but I prefer to call my frenemy by the name  Judas or JJ as in Jezebel Judas aka a demon)….makes me feel better  so  I can laugh at the insult

Your first clue that someone is a frenemy maybe nothing more than a feeling….trust your spiritual gut. When people show you their true colors and become themselves….believe it,

Apocrypha Book of Sirach Chapter 26 vs 25....A shameless woman shall be counted as a DOG; but she that is shamefaced will fear the Lord.

Dictionary. com…

Shameless ( adjective ) lacking no sense of shame, insensible to disgrace, showing no shame

Synonyms…..brazen,defiant, indecent,impudent,bold,unabashed,unashamed or hardened,unprincipled or corrupt.

Sisters, sometimes you just need to know when to keep your mouth closed and say NOTHING

Apocrypha Book of Sirach Chapter 32 vs 8-10…

Let thy speech be short, comprehending much in a few words; be as one that knoweth and yet holdeth his tongue. If thou be among great men, make not thyself equal with them; and when ancient men are in place, use not many words.Before thunder goeth lightning; and before a shamefaced man shall go favour

Should we use these terms “NO”, however you need to know it exists and don’t fool yourselves, this is what is said and often times behind backs from the school bus to the board room based on our own destructive behaviors, and failure to repent from our wicked ways

Apocrypha Book of Sirach Chapter 23 vs 9,10…

Accustom not thy mouth to swearing; neither use thyself to the naming of the Holy One. For as a servant that is continually beaten shall not be without a blue mark; so he that sweareth and nameth God continually shall not be faultless.

Apocrypha Book of Sirach Chapter 41…

vs 16…Therefore be shamefaced according to my word….

vs 17…Be ashamed of whoredom before father and mother; and of a lie before a prince and a mighty man

vs 18… Of an offence before a judge and ruler; of iniquity before a congregation and people; of unjust dealing before thy partner and friend

vs 19…and of theft in regard of the place where thou sojournest, and in regard of the truth of God and his covenant; and to lean with thine elbow upon the meat; and of scorning to give and take;

vs 20..And of silence before them that salute thee; and to look upon an harlot;

vs 21…And to turn away thy face from thy kinsman; or to take away a portion or a gift; or to gaze upon another mans’ wife

vs 22… or of upbraiding speeches before friends; and after thou hath given, upbraid not;

vs 23… Or of iterating and speaking again that which thou hast heard; and or revealing of secrets.

vs 24…So shalt thou be truly “shamefaced” and find favour before all men

True colors  of a frenemy include……

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• Trying to ruin a positive moment for you with careless words that diminish your achievements
• Gossiping about you behind your back
• The inability to be sincerely happy for you during times of gladness and success due to jealousy
• Constantly comparing her life with yours or competing with you ( job, house, kids, etc . )
• Compliments mixed with criticism
• Use you for your talents and/or connections for work or socially
• Hurtful words followed by a hug or a big smile

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Apocrypha Sirach6 vs 7…..if thou wouldest get a friend, prove him first, and not be hasty to credit him

 

Proverbs 17vs 17…. A friend loveth  at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

 

The following  are comments and quotes from an article that ran in a newspaper in the midwest,

February 2007

“frenemy” a word in which I was unfamiliar before today….defined thusly…..an enemy who acts like a friend, a fair-weather or untrustworthy friend

“What drives people to insinuate themselves into the lives of strangers and use that relationship as the springboard to mount their high-wire act of melodrama? Who would prefer the emotional danger of betraying a friendship to the safety of standing on solid ground with a trusted friend? Can there be any dismount from that tightrope except a fall ?”

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“Remember the parable  about the scorpion and the frog ?”

“The frog gives the scorpion a ride across the river on it’s back; trusting that their mutually assured destruction will keep the scorpion from stinging him. Halfway across the river, the scorpion stings the frog. As they are sinking into the water, the frog says, ‘Why did you do that” Now we’ll both die.

“And the scorpion says ,” I cannot help myself, that’s my nature “

“I think that’s the nature of people who eventually show themselves to be “frenemies”. Although they may have desire to have friends and community, they can’t help but sabotaging those very same relationships. It’s their nature.”

Sisters don’t get stung!!! Lol

Proverbs 18 vs 24….A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

 

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Shamarah